Experience | Experiment | Discover | Grow
Whatever is going on for us that prompts us to seek professional help, I believe therapy is, at heart, about establishing and developing a more secure, loving home within ourselves. I am interested in your relationship with yourself, what I consider to be our primary relationship in life, regardless of our relationship status.
To do this, as a key part of our work, we start with your experience, looking at how you are with yourself, how you talk to yourself, how you function day-to-day. We explore this alongside how you relate to others, including how you manage your boundaries with yourself and with others. I view your history as the background for who and how you are now, looking with you at the ways in which you have formed yourself over time, in response to what you’ve experienced. I keep in my awareness the broader perspective of your current situation, your stage of life, what you want for yourself in the future, and your attitude towards these.
I approach this work with curiosity – knowing that it’s a process of attention, experimentation, learning, empowerment and growth. It’s an opportunity to recognise and develop existing and new inner resources we need to live a satisfying, meaningful life, whatever our age.
Our bodies, minds and emotional experience are beautifully, inextricably connected. While talking is obviously important in therapy, it can sometimes take us away from the immediate experience of being present in our bodies, the ground of our being. To balance that, I work somatically (with the body), taking into consideration your physical structure and behaviour, including your muscular patterns, to help you recognise the impact you have on yourself, especially emotionally. This does not usually involve touch and is with the aim of helping you directly experience and influence your embodied patterns, attitudes and identities in the present. In the process, you can make the connections between these and your emotional experience, mental state and relationships with others. Joining the dots in this way can help you see the bigger picture of how you function and, in the process, develop greater agency in your life.
Through doing this work, you can gain new perspectives on yourself. You can recognise and end old patterns, attitudes and identities that no longer serve you, and establish new ones that do, that are right for you now. You can also identify and reclaim any key neglected, disowned or abandoned parts of yourself, thereby becoming more integrated and whole. These are all ways in which you can change and grow, leading to greater satisfaction and increased hope, as you mature and evolve towards fulfilling your potential.